Re: "Settings Notification Badges for Apples Paid services like Applecare and other things I don't want. How do I make them stop and not come back"
Settings > Notifications > Apps > Choose an app > Turn off Badges
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Re: "How do I stop apple from trying to push stuff on me I don't want and tell them I don't want the services ..."
Check your communications preferences, and turn off any you want to:
Manage emails that you receive from Apple - Apple Support
Eg: says:
"You can update your Apple email subscription preferences by clicking unsubscribe in the email footer, or on the Apple Account page.
- Sign in to account.apple.com.
- Go to Privacy, then select Messages from Apple."
You can tick or untick any of the checkboxes.
Are you sure the messages are actually from Apple and not from those who try to obtain our private info., and / or our $$:
Recognize and avoid social engineering schemes including phishing messages, phony support calls, and other scams - Apple Support
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If necessary: Call Apple Support at 1-800-APLCARE (or use the app)
or
For Apple Phone numbers around-the-world:
In the article below:
Scroll to "Connect with live support" to choose your country.
Contact Apple Support - Apple Support
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Re: "Does asking questions here actually solve anything or is it just people being irritated that all we can do is wait?"
It's an individual experience, some find answers, some don't.
You are trying it, so I expect you will find out how it works for you.
We are all Apple users, like yourself in the community, so Apple is unlikely to see or answer what you post. Some of us volunteer our time and efforts in order to assist each other.
Am no expert, yet felt your questions deserve some reply, if only to get a discussion underway and provide more opportunity for others to join in.
Effective questions generally find the most appropriate suggestions and / or solutions. Eg: It is not easy to reply when there are numerous possible causes for an issue, and little info. provided to rule out some:
if you are interested in reading it: There are tips available from a well-respected community member: on writing an effective question
Writing an effective Apple Support Commun… - Apple Community